I asked her some basic questions and she kept saying, “I’m not talking about my homework, and I already told Daddy that.” When I pushed, she told me it was a secret and she didn’t want to get in trouble, so then I started to get a little worried. I looked her straight in the eye and told her that no matter what she said, she wouldn’t be in trouble and that secrets aren’t good and even though I could tell she heard me, she still wasn’t going to spill.
Finally I put a pillow up in between us like a wall, stuck my hand up like a puppet, and in a squeaky voice said, “Hey Sami! Can you tell me your secret?”
Two seconds later her hand appeared over the pillow and I heard, “I copied all of my homework off of Joseph.”
Extremely relieved that it wasn’t something BAD, we had a heart to heart about cheating and how if she doesn’t understand her work she should tell the teacher instead of copying, because she needs to learn this. After a few minutes I said, “Have you copied off of Joseph before?” and she replied, “No, NEVER!”
[pause]“I usually copy off of Julie.”
We just got her progress report and I have send Julie’s parents a thank you note for raising such a smart child. Sam’s getting straight A’s.